Pavilnys Trilogy (Part 3): More Homes of Pavilnys

Pavilnys Trilogy (Part 3): More Homes of Pavilnys

It has been a while since my last story about Pavilnys, the place where I live. There is one more, which I have been keeping to myself for a long time – actually, since the summer. I open it, do some little writing and save it for later. It is so warm, friendly and summery that it is hard to let it go. And of course just like the previous ones in these series, this one is special and close to my heart.

I met Gabija and Antanas a couple of weeks before their daughter Saule was born. They stopped by to check our house, and then later showed us theirs. Now, a bit over a year later I am watching Mark and Saule kinda grow up together (although at the moment mostly taking toy cars, buckets or chestnuts away from each other). I also lost count to the number of teas and coffees we have drunk with Gabija over this time, and the number of topics we have discussed.

And when she says (spoiler alert!) that she would like to grow old here in Pavilnys, I feel something warm inside me, imagining for probably the first time our old age as a blessing and not as a punishment. Teas and talks and exchanging seeds and baby-plants. Well-rooted and well-neighboured.

Just a usual reminder, although you probably all know it. All the photographs, taken in Pavilnys are taken by the local Pavilnys photographer Ramunas Petkevicius. If you ever find yourself in need of a local photo session, you know where to go!

And I pass the word to Antanas and Gabija.

Life before Pavilnys

We used to live in a suburb of Vilnius called Jeruzale (like Jerusalem) in a flat on the ninth floor in the house on the hill. In the evening we could see all the lights of Vilnius from our window and it was total jazz. That life was very different from the one here.

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“In the evening we could see all the lights of Vilnius from our window and it was total jazz.”

We started to think about getting a home of our own and thought about this straw house idea. How it is all planned very smart, so it is cool in the summer and warm in the winter. We did some research and found a builder, who specialised in straw houses. Couple of years ago there were not many of them here in Lithuania, and he was probably the most popular one.

Finding a place to live

Antanas was regularly checking land advertisements, looking for our home. His dad used to travel a lot around Vilnius, and he recommended the direction of Pavilnys to us.

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Antanas and Saule

Gabija: We found the advertisement for this plot of land some time in spring and decided to just jump in the car and go to see it. Only ourselves, without informing anyone. When we arrived, we saw that the whole plot was covered in a field of blooming tulips. There was nothing planted, nothing growing, just a sea of flowers. I was convinced at once that this will be our home.

The tulips are still growing by the way, even though we tried to dig them out. Many of the bulbs are so deep in the ground that we could not find them, and each spring they would still bloom.

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Outside the house

But we did not buy this land at once. We looked at the ad for a very long time, almost a year. And when we bought it, we did not start building. First summer we made it a kind of vegetable garden. We planted radishes, herbs and felt so grown up and responsible, having to come each weekend to water and weed. I also planted way too much parsley, and for two years after that we still had some left in the freezer.

About Pavilnys

Until that moment we did not really know about Pavilnys. Although we both are from Vilnius, we used to think it was really far out of the city, some forsaken corner. I used to pass it by bus sometimes. I would listen to the strange names of the bus stops and think: “Who could possibly live here?” Well, now it is us, and it does not seem far at all. But our friends, who come here by bus, still claim it is far from everything.

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Neighbour

Gabija: The thing about Pavilnys I like is that it is like a little village in the city. I miss the village of my childhood and I need it to feel at home. There is definitely enough of this countryside feeling here in Pavilnys. We have a post office, which is even older than the one in my village. There is a library in a hut. I really miss having a bakery, where I could go in the morning to buy some fresh bread. I miss a place to drink a nice cup of coffee. I would also like to have a nice cosy pharmacy closer to the house. And of course I miss paved roads.

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Village in the city

I spent a lot of time exploring Pavilnys when our daughter Saule was very little and would sleep long in her stroller. I would walk around, past the church and the post.

Building a house

The whole process of building took us around one year. We started with the foundation of course and left it to dry over the winter. We started building the house itself in spring. Well, not us, but the team of builders. But we also got involved in some of the works ourselves.

When the building process was close to the end, our builder suddenly announced that he cannot continue the work on the house. Of course we were frightened that now the whole process will stop. But luckily his team finished the building perfectly.

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A little window to peek into the wall

In the beginning you have to build a carcass of the future house. Then you need to fill it with blocks of straw. It is the most usual straw from the field, but it is important that you harvest it on time and it stays dry. It is a good idea to have an agreement with the farmers in advance. If they know that you are buying their straw for building, they tie the ropes on the blocks tighter than they normally would. You then start adding those blocks to the carcass and press them with a lifting jack. Then add more blocks and press again. And your house grows.

We did the inside walls ourselves. It is the same system, you put the straw blocks and then press them together.

The finishing inside and outside the house is clay.

Unsolved puzzles

Gabija: What I miss most in the house is the feeling that it is finished. We still have some walls we need to paint, some cables to hide, some lamps to hang. Sometimes it is very hard to live in a space, which is your home for almost two years, but still feels unfinished. On the other hand I also understand that a house is in a way always a work in progress.

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When you are starting to build, you feel so energized. You imagine how it will look after you are done, how cosy it will feel. But later you slow down, because you realise that some things can be like puzzles which you have to solve. For example, we still have not chosen the lights for the main room. We cannot have any lights attached directly to the ceiling itself, as they would overheat the straw in the roof. So we are thinking and planning and imagining.

Moving in

In the old days they used to say that the house becomes a home when it gets its heart – the stove. So when the kitchen was built, I really felt that now I live here.

Antanas built some furniture himself, some things here, and others he brought over from the previous flat. We have also built our bed and this was such a great process. There is a Lithuanian folk song. It tells about the whole life of a couple. We will cut a tree, build a bed and a cradle and rock our baby in it. Antantas measured and prepared the wood. I was painting the wood, and while doing this, the song was all the time playing in my head.

Homes of the past

Gabija: When I was a little girl, my parents would often bring me to stay with my grandmother. She used to live on a rather isolated farmstead, surrounded by fields and forests. I spent most of my childhood there. In the house it would be just the three of us – my grandparents and I – and no one else for many kilometers around. This was a place where my heart felt at home. Of course I could not live on a farm or even in a small village, but I feel that I am building my current home out of that childhood experience.

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Grandmother’s chest

A round table in the kitchen, my grandmother’s woven bed-cover on the bed. My grandmother’s tablecloths. I collected the elements of home from that home and transferred them into this one. Luckily, Antanas is fine with that.

There is one element he is not okay with though. My grandmother used to have a huge apple geranium plant, so I feel the need to have the same plant here in my house. Antanas really does not like it, so we will have to solve it somehow.

Gabija and Antanas Pavilnys Trilogy

Speaking of shared background: The round table is from Antanas’ grandparents’ house, and similar to the one Gabija’s grandmother had.

House to a home

I could not name the exact point when this house became a home. Probably this feeling came slowly, gradually. We started adopting this place with our first vegetable garden, dill and parsley. Planning the best way to drive here, planning our way home. The neighbours were curious about our garden and wanted to talk to us. This also helped to feel at home.

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The tablecloth with star constellations

Gabija: It became a home when it became possible to live here. When this building was just a project on paper, I could not feel that it is going to be our home. It was hard to imagine, where to put the windows, the doors. After the foundation was built, I could still not imagine that we are actually going to live here. And when the roof was covered and it suddenly became possible to spend a night in this house – it was probably then it felt like home.

Favourite spots in the house

Gabija: There are some spots in our house which I particularly like. One is here on the sofa. In the evening you can open a book, and when you lift your eyes for a second, you will see just the trees and the sky through the kitchen window. A green-blue patch in the wall.

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The green-blue patch is green-only at the moment

I also like to catch a glimpse of the view through the little window on the front door with a corner of my eye. There you can only see the greens and lake water. I just catch this view briefly in passing, without even looking at it, and carry on with my tasks, but it makes me happy.

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Gabija and Saule. And blurry surprised Mark in the background

Antanas: For me this would definitely be the table by the window, where I usually work.

The garden

There are plants which simply must grow in our garden. For example, a lily of the valley. One day we will go to my grandmother’s house to bring some here. On that farm there is a whole field of them growing. There also has to be some peony flowers and berry bushes.

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The terrace. If you look hard, you can see a little apple geranium plant on the table. Will it stay?

Antanas is responsible for the trees. He is more practical, and I in my enthusiasm will not know, which size and types they should be. We will also have a vegetable garden of course.

Moving again?

Sometimes Antanas mentions that we will do this and that differently, when we will be building our next house. But I find it hard to imagine living anywhere else now. Thinking about it, I would not like to live anywhere else but in Pavilnys. We have built our home, and I would like to spend all my life here.

22 Comments

  1. November 24, 2017 / 8:18 am

    I like reading about your post and your choice of choosing the perfect place to stay.Is Vilnius a town where we can see the lights…

  2. November 28, 2017 / 1:37 pm

    Kaip džiaugiuosi atradusi Jus! Ir kaip gera skaityti kaimynų istorijas! Mes taip pat vadiname Pavilnį kaimu mieste. Čia viskas lėčiau, kitaip ir labai smagiai.

    • merrygoroundslowly
      November 28, 2017 / 2:16 pm

      Kaip smagu, kaimynai! Labai labai džiaugiuosi, kad sutinkat ir patinka istorijos. Užsukit kada nors gyvai kavos!

  3. Vasundhra
    November 29, 2017 / 4:59 am

    Building a house is no easy task, it takes time and patience before it actually feels like home. Yours is a beautiful house in an amazing place!

  4. November 29, 2017 / 5:53 am

    Wow, your story of building this home is amazing! It’s incredible how you found the land and fell in love with it, but spent the first couple of years growing the garden before building. You really took the time to get to know your land before putting any foundation into it. Awesome job on the house, too!

  5. Courtney Blacher
    November 29, 2017 / 12:11 pm

    Those photos are really beautiful! It’s really important to choose the right place for your family.

    • merrygoroundslowly
      November 29, 2017 / 7:33 pm

      Thanks!

  6. helene dsouza
    November 29, 2017 / 2:32 pm

    I really loved reading your post !!
    It’s indeed a nice place to build a home and spend life happily there😊
    This inspires me too to build a home in a place which makes me happy 😊
    Lovely post !!!

    • merrygoroundslowly
      November 29, 2017 / 7:33 pm

      I’m glad to hear it! Wish you a nice house some time in some place. You’ll feel when the place is right!

  7. November 29, 2017 / 3:41 pm

    Our emotions are attached with the word home. Making each effort to a get or build a perfect one to shape our dream home.

  8. Joanna Davis
    November 29, 2017 / 4:31 pm

    Their house looks lovely and it does indeed have elements which made it from just a house a home. I like how they were involved in designing and thinking at every corner, imagining how to finished project would look like. No wonder they want to grow old in it.

  9. November 29, 2017 / 6:11 pm

    Building a house seems like a ton of work but it looks beautiful

    • merrygoroundslowly
      November 29, 2017 / 7:27 pm

      Thanks Syd, I also loved the result!

  10. November 30, 2017 / 12:04 am

    The photos are beautiful. It seems like hard work to build a house but worth it in the end.

  11. November 30, 2017 / 5:32 pm

    It is heartwarming to read you post. Moving to a new place and building a new life is quite challenging, but I’m glad you were able to go through it!

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  12. Preet@thevelvetlife
    November 30, 2017 / 6:24 pm

    What a beautiful post. I liked the way you have described everything starting form finding a place, then building the house and then have the house become a home. So amazing, I like the pictures and you home is indeed so beautiful with all the details and the logic behind them.

    • merrygoroundslowly
      December 2, 2017 / 11:29 pm

      Thank you, I’m glad you liked it.

  13. November 30, 2017 / 7:13 pm

    Building house is a tedious task but all the efforts are worth rewarding in th end! I’m glad you found your perfect place and transformed your house into home.

  14. December 1, 2017 / 12:57 pm

    I really loved reading your post !! Moving to a new house and building a new life is so challenging, and I am so glad you were able to go through it..

  15. Better Way of Thinking
    December 2, 2017 / 5:48 am

    I have never heard of this location but your pictures of the outdoors make me want to visit. Congrats on building your new home.

    • merrygoroundslowly
      December 2, 2017 / 11:25 pm

      Thank you!

  16. December 4, 2017 / 12:08 am

    You’ve got a lovely home! Building a new life somewhere else is challenge I had to do that 10 years ago eventually you’ll be all settled up.

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